Sisters

09.17.13

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Sisterhood. It’s filled with love, listening ears, hearts that care, eyes that see, warm hugs, late night talks, deep secrets, strong devotion, unrehearsed communication, loyalty beyond measure, and  friendship to last an eternity.

 

Four years ago, when Cali reached twelve  months, we were already contemplating a second child. Crazy? Most would say yes, but I knew in my heart the decision was right for us.

 

When we found out number two was indeed on the way, we were, needless to say, thrilled.

 

Five months later when we heard the news, “It’s a girl!”, the thrill reached new heights! During this time in Cali’s life I had absolutely zero concern for an autism diagnosis that would prove to come nine months later.  Sadly, I was completely ignorant to autism. In mind Cali was developing as appropriate and would soon be starting a new adventure in sisterhood.

 

July of 2010 came and so did Ava Michele.  Cali and Ava…a new sisterhood was born. A subconscious bond was being formed with each passing day.

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Six months following Ava’s arrival is when my ignorance of autism was fading. It was becoming more and more apparent my “typically” developing two year old, was in fact not typical. February 28th came and so did the reality of autism. No more ignorance.

 

Sisterhood. It’s filled with love, listening ears, hearts that care, eyes that see, warm hugs, late night talks, deep secrets, strong devotion, unrehearsed communication, loyalty beyond measure, and  friendship to last an eternity

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Did the word sisterhood now have a new meaning for Cali and Ava? Would they now miss out on the richness a sister relationship has to offer because of autism?  I wondered this often.

 

I also wondered…Would they ever connect? How would they bond? Would it run surface deep and no further?

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These and other questions saddened me. They saddened me because at first my answers initially came up negative. My view of their future was so completely unknown and for some reason it was so easy to see a disconnected and distant sisterhood instead of the deeply linked sisterhood I longed for them to experience.

 

Then it happened. My bleak perspective of their future relationship changed. I don’t remember the exact day but I do remember the feeling and the setting.

The girls were asleep and casey was working late. I was alone in my room thinking about the girls and thinking particularly on Ava. She was still so young, but autism did not at all seem to be on her life’s radar. As I was thinking particularly on this small six month old I can remember feeling my heart grow ten times it’s actual size. The more I thought about the sister she would be to Cali, the more my heart would grow. Instantly I knew that the richness of sisterhood has no boundaries. Autism or not, these two girls would find their sisterhood.

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Would they connect? Yes they would. How would bond? Through love, play, and silliness. Would their bond run deeper than the surface? Yes, to their very hearts.

 

I reflect on this moment I experienced, alone in my bedroom, often. I reflect on it when Cali and Ava giggle in the tub playing nonsense imaginative games. I reflect on it when when Cali tells me to “be nice to my sister!” I reflect on it when  they hold hands crossing the street. And I reflect on it as they say to one another with an impromptu “I love you.”

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Daily evidences are shown to confirm what I felt that night in my room. Cali is five and Ava is three. They may not be fully aware yet, but the sisterhood they share is already an unbreakable bond.

 

Sisterhood. It’s filled with love, listening ears, hearts that care, eyes that see, warm hugs, late night talks, deep secrets, strong devotion, unrehearsed communication, loyalty beyond measure, and  friendship to last an eternity.

 

Cali and Ava, sisters for eternity…

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  1. Absolutely amazing! And you described my thoughts and feelings of Gavin and Noah to a T!!!! Thank you for such incredible, heartfelt posts Chelsea. You really help us momma’s not feel so alone. Beautiful girls!!!

  2. I love this and I love you!! You, Sydney, and I know all too well the incredible bond sisters can have. I hope Emmy and Holland are just like Cali and Ava.

  3. Truly my new favorite post! From the perspective of having three sisters, three daughters, and now five granddaughters – the bond of sisterhood is real and lasting. The bond between Cali and Ava is captured so perfectly in these photos. Such beauty!

  4. Beautiful post. I too am so incredibly grateful that my two girls have each other. I’ve always felt every girl needs a sister. Thanks for your post. The pictures are beautiful too. They already look older than when I saw you in June.

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